Some people think they don’t have a fetish, and some of those people are right. While others are sure of their fetish and yet think they are abnormal because of it. So, for starters let’s clear the air about what a fetish is.
If you have a fetish, you are obsessively fixated on either an object or a body part.
You need that specific something for sexual gratification. You fantasize about that particular thing, whether you’re alone or with a partner. You need to think about that object or have it present in order to be satisfied.
For example, if you’re attracted to women with red hear, that’s fine, however, if you are unable to get aroused unless you’re with a red headed woman or fantasize about one, then you probably have a fetish for red heads.
Types of fetishes
Fetishes come in three different varieties. There are many varied and diverse fetishes, but all of them can be sorted into one of these three categories; media, form and animate.
A media fetish is when the obsession is based on a material. This includes leather, latex and silk. Form fetishes include stiletto heels, knee-high boots and lingerie; this is where it’s the shape of the object that has great significance.
Feet, hair, breasts and all that good stuff are also considered fetishes but because they are human objects they’re called animate fetishes.
Anybody can turn anything into a fetish. There are also varying degrees of a fetish – from mild to extreme. The following is a list of eight fetishes I have compiled from internet research.
They are in no particular order but I have found them to be the most popular out of all the ones I have researched. There are plenty of others I didn’t include; some tamer and some a hundred times more wild.
So let’s start with body piercings. This one is very popular amongst the younger generations. Everything from bellybuttons, tongues, nipples, eyebrows and ears, there are so many who love this and for the specific few, it’s even a prerequisite.
Some people just enjoy the sight of piercings, whereas others enjoy the feel, taste or texture of them. They vary from small, large, intricate and simple depending on what part of the body they are attached to and can be very tactile objects for some people.
It’s all about preference. Certain people hate piercings – they perceive them as something that mars something pure and natural, to others they are sexy and irresistible.
Men love material. They like to touch and tug at clothes just as much as they like to watch a woman dressing and undressing. In particular, men enjoy watching a woman move around in anything tight, reflective or shiny. Even though they may settle down with a woman who is ‘vanilla’, most men are always fantasizing about the classic bad girl look.
For women it’s more about the feel of the material. Although, I don’t know any woman who isn’t affected by a delicious man in a leather jacket… It depends how far you want to delve into the world of BDSM but generally speaking latex and vinyl are associated with mistresses and dominants.
Next up, feet. You can’t tell me you didn’t see this one coming. Men love to lick, suck, kiss and bite women’s feet. Some men find it impossible to date a woman who has unattractive feet. I’ll be fair to the minority and say that for some men, feet are not in the least bit arousing. However, to the vast majority great sexual pleasure cause be found from playing with womens feet.
In comparison, women are not too fussed about feet and find greater pleasure from stimulating men’s fingers and hands. Hand fetishism usually includes an attraction to a specific area such as fingers, palm or nails.
This next fetish is linked very closely with Number 2. Domination and submission is an incredibly popular fetish amongst all ages and genders. It has to be said that most women dominate, whilst most men submit. While women enjoy bossing their man around in bed, spanking them and shouting at them, men find it arousing and relaxing to submit to their woman – especially if they are in a position of power as part of their day-to-day routine or a high-powered career.
Of course, it’s not uncommon for a woman to submit to her man. Some women find it incredibly arousing to have no control in the bedroom – this is especially common with women who ‘run’ their household.
Domination and submission is a very varied practice. It can range from the odd spank here and there to whipping, caning and other debauchery. This is the most appealing part of BDSM because every person/couple can put his or her mark on it (no pun intended…honest!) and enjoy it in their own way.
It surely won’t surprise you that hair has made its way into this list of popular fetishes. Amongst men, hair in particular shapes and colours is a big turn on whereas for women, facial hair is the main focus. Whether it is blond, brunette, red, long, short, curly, straight, braids, ponytails, you name it and a man out there will have a fetish for it.
Men enjoy a womans hair for 2 reasons in particular. Firstly, pigtails and ponytails emanate a youthfulness that certain men find erotic and secondly men enjoy something other than skin to hang on to. Most pheromones come from the top of your head, which means your hair is drenched in them, long hair grabs onto these pheromones and in turn, this attracts men – without them or you even realising!
It can be arousing and fun at the same time for both parties digging your fingers into each other’s hair, the scent and the texture is arousing to most men (and women). Hair is incredibly strong and resilient – especially if looked after well, so it can be tugged, pulled and tied to your heart’s content.
For women the appeal lies not just in hair but facial hair in particular. A man with a beard, moustache or even the slightest bit of stubble just radiates testosterone and masculinity that cannot be replicated in any other way. Women find it a joy to stroke, nuzzle and simply look at facial hair on a man.
Voyeurism and exhibitionism are very popular fetishes, either when with a partner or flying solo. Technically, voyeurism is when the person/people being watched are unaware they have an audience. However, as a fetish voyeurism is typically consensual, which means all those involved have consented to being watched.
Examples of voyeuristic behaviours could include watching a partner undress or masturbate, watching an internet “live” cam or observing people at a nude beach. Exhibitionism is the other side of the story – those who love to put on a show and receive their thrills from the knowledge they are being watched.
Believe it or not, water and its many variants are hugely popular with both men and women. Many find they enjoy sex more when they can hear, feel or taste running water from a range of different sources, including the rain or a shower.
However, it’s not always just about water. This fetish can stretch to steam and ice and all the wonderful things you can do with them. Others find there thrill from thunderstorms, listening to the powerful sounds and the sudden flashes of light, creates a sense of empowerment and gives a thrill like no other.
Aquaphilia or Hydrophilia is a fetish that involves being underwater or immersed in water (swimming or bathing), it is not all that common as a fetish but many couples have partaken in sexual activity whilst swimming or bathing.
Aphrodisiacs are elements that evoke or stimulate sexual desire. There are drugs that claim to enhance your sex life and they are often mislabelled as aphrodisiacs. However, in order to be a true aphrodisiac they have to create desire – not improve ability and performance.
Aphrodisiacs can work in two ways; there are those that create sexual desire by working on the mind and there are those that create desire by affecting certain parts of the body. For example, something that increases the blood flow can have the effect of creating desire. Likewise, there are products that can make our bodies increase production of certain chemicals associated with sexual desire.
Everybody knows that chocolate has always been associated with love and romance. It contains the ‘feel good’ chemical serotonin which is produced by the brain and released when we are feeling happy or passionate.
There are a range of other foods both sweet and savoury that are believed to be aphrodisiacs, including garlic, chilli peppers, honey, oysters and liquorice.
As well as aphrodisiacs, food can also be used for food play or sitophilia, which is when those involved are aroused by erotic situations with food. Whether it’s adding something tasty to a person’s skin and then cleaning it off or feeding somebody erotic food as part of foreplay, sitophilia is popular the world over.
So that’s it for my little list of fetishes, I hope you have fun exploring some of them and enjoyed my research! Don’t forget there are of course many many more than the ones I have chosen to list, and also don’t forget that exploring these fetishes depends on your partner – exploring your desires together and with mutual curiosity will make them all the more fun.